7 conversations to have before you say yes.
Not another sign you're in love. A way to see, clearly, the actual life you're agreeing to build — before the wedding, not after it.
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You can be in love and still not know what you're signing up for.
That doesn't mean your love is fake. It doesn't mean your relationship is bad. It just means love and marriage are not the same test.
Most couples know how they feel about each other. Far fewer have actually talked through how they'll handle money, in-laws, children, careers, faith, and conflict once the wedding is over.
Years together can quietly stand in for understanding. You can date someone for five years and still never have the five conversations that matter most — not because you're avoiding them, but because nothing ever forced the topic.
Then marriage arrives, and all the assumptions that felt safe turn into sentences like "I thought we agreed on that."
Edris has been married for 68 years. He didn't write this because his marriage was easy — he wrote it because he has spent decades watching what happens on the other side of a wedding people rushed into without asking the hard questions.
"I've watched relationships jump into marriage and jump back out again, without ever asking the questions that actually decide whether a marriage works. These days, people are quicker to replace what isn't working than to sit down and fix it. It feels faster. It rarely is better."
The 7 tests — one for each part of a shared life
Each chapter walks you and your partner through one area, with the real questions to ask each other — then has you score where you stand: green, yellow, or red.
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1
Money
Can you build a life without fighting about every naira? Combined or separate finances, family support, debt, what "comfortable" even means to each of you.
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2
Family
Who gets a seat at the table — how involved your families will be, boundaries, privacy, and what happens when your families disagree with your decisions.
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3
Home
What will your actual everyday life look like — who handles what, how much alone time you each need, what a normal weekday really becomes.
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4
Children
Are you raising the same family? Timing, number, and the decisions that are much easier to agree on before a child exists than after.
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5
Career
What happens when life forces you to choose — a move, a promotion, one income instead of two.
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6
Beliefs & Traditions
What kind of home are you actually building — faith, culture, and the traditions you'll pass on or leave behind.
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7
Conflict
What happens when you stop agreeing — not if, but how, because every couple eventually gets here.
Then you look at the whole picture
After the seven tests, Chapter 10 has you lay every result side by side — so instead of one worry taking over the conversation, you see where you're actually aligned and where you genuinely still have work to do.
The Yes Test™ isn't about finding a perfect partner or a perfect score. It's about seeing, clearly, the life you're actually agreeing to — before you agree to it. Chapter 11 closes the guide with the one conversation Edris believes every couple should have before setting a wedding date.
Three bonuses to actually use the tests together
The 7-Day Couple Conversation Challenge
One conversation a day for seven days, instead of one long, exhausting talk. Each day walks you through what to ask, with space to write down what you agreed on and what still needs more discussion.
Marriage Dealbreakers & Boundaries Worksheet
Not every difference is a dealbreaker. This worksheet helps you separate what's negotiable from what touches a real boundary or non-negotiable — filled out privately first, then discussed together.
The Engagement Readiness Scorecard
A single page that brings all seven tests together with a green, yellow, or red result and a next step for each — so you can see the whole relationship at a glance, not just the parts that are easy to talk about.
This is for you if
- You're dating seriously, engaged, or thinking about engagement soon
- You want to talk about the real, unglamorous parts of marriage before the wedding, not after
- You'd rather have an honest conversation now than an "I thought we agreed on that" later
This isn't for you if
- You're looking for a quiz that tells you whether to marry your partner — it won't
- You want professional counselling for an existing crisis — see a licensed counsellor for that
- You're not willing to sit down and actually talk with your partner — the guide only works if you do the conversations
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How is the guide delivered?
As a PDF, sent immediately after payment. There's nothing physical to wait for.
Do we have to go through all 7 tests in order?
No — you can work through them in any order, or use the 7-Day Challenge to pace one a day. What matters is that you actually sit down and have each conversation.
What if my partner doesn't want to do this with me?
Start by reading it yourself and sharing one test that stood out. Most people find it easier to say yes to one honest conversation than to "let's talk about our whole future."
We've been together for years — do we really need this?
Time together doesn't automatically mean you've covered these seven areas. Many long-together couples discover gaps they never knew were there, simply because the topic never came up on its own.
Is there a refund if it's not what I expected?
No — this is a digital download delivered instantly, and all sales are final. Take a look through the contents above before you buy so you know exactly what's inside.
Is this a substitute for couples counselling?
No. The Yes Test™ is a conversation and reflection tool. If you're navigating a serious crisis in your relationship, please speak with a licensed counsellor.